Advice For Teens Before You Start Dating

Leave a Comment / Blog, Homeschool Season, Parenting Season / By Lyudmila

Dating is an important part of the teenage years. Or so it seems to be for most teens.

It wasn’t like that for me. I decided not to date. Call me old fashioned if you like but I ask you to hear me out. I strongly believe and encourage teens not to date.

Why?

There are a couple of reasons why and I will tell you what I think you should do before you ever decide to jump into the dating world.

Let me tell you a little bit about myself…

Back in the day when I was a teenager I made the decision that I wasn’t going to date. I was going to save myself fully for the one and only.

Guess what?

I do have my one and only and we have been married for 22 years. I would not have done it any other way.

Sure, I was surrounded by friends in middle and high school that dated but that didn’t bother me. I wasn’t shy about telling my friends what I believed.

Don’t let anyone pressure you into thinking that you will fit in better if you start dating.

Please resist, those teen years will pass you quickly by and why should you live with embarrassing moments and mistakes because you couldn’t stand your ground. If your friends are pressuring you to date then maybe you should find some new friends.

Save your whole heart for the one who is intended for you. God has someone in mind for you who will complete you.

Don’t give bits and pieces of your heart away to anyone who comes along. If you think it won’t affect you , let me tell you that it will.

How do I know without having dated? Well, I would hear about the heartbreak of my friends back in the day. But if you need more current evidence then I will speak from the experience of my own daughters who chose not to take my advice. If they could come on here and say a couple of words it would be that they wished they would have listened to me but at the time they thought they knew better or gave into the doubts and pressures.

Those teen years are like a roller coaster.

You first need to figure yourself and your standards out before getting involved with anyone else. You should know what your values are and what you believe. Stick to them and do not waver.

Take the time to notice the opposite gender and what they are like. You can learn a lot about someone in social circles.

If you can get involved in youth at a church then that would be great. It’s a great way to make friends and meet people and then maybe one day meet the love of your life.

That’s how it was for me. I was involved in youth and in my church. My husband also went to the same church. We became acquainted and we got to know each other pretty well through youth gatherings.

Eventually that friendship turned into a relationship and then marriage. We saw each other at church and talked on the phone. Not a cell phone but a home phone. Cell phones were barely around back then. We did not go out on dates.

I know in this day and age almost everyone is on cell phones and it’s hard sometimes not to go with the crowd. I ask you to resist and stand up for yourself and your values.

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